Updated on 06/08/2022 at 09:21
- Legal psychologist and best-selling author Julia Shaw, who has just published a non-fiction book on the topic, says bisexuals are underrepresented in public and less acceptable than homosexuals.
- She invites bisexuals out and praises the current Netflix series as “so important to making bisexuals visible.”
Teenage Nick, a self-confident rugby star and school sweetheart, loves Keira Knightley and Orlando Bloom in the pirate movie Pirates of the Caribbean. And that his feelings for the shy Charlie, who was sitting next to him in class, confuses the 16-year-old even more. The Netflix series “Heartstopper” sensitively shows Nick’s identity and his awakening love for gay Charlie.
In recent weeks, the British series has sensitized millions of viewers around the world to the emotional state of heterosexual and homosexual people, who can be romantically or sexually attracted to more than one gender.
Julia Shaw: Biologically, duplication is the norm
Bisexuality is often neglected in social discourse, according to the new non-fiction book “Bi – Discover Diverse Love” (Hanser-Verlag). “Duality is not a trend,” says the book’s author, legal psychologist Julia Shaw. The concept of this tendency has been around since the late 19th century. From zoology, there is also knowledge that many animals exhibit bisexual behaviour, in short: “bisexuality is the norm.”
“In psychology, I find it interesting how many heterosexual people have had intersex experiences,” says Shaw, 35, who was born in Cologne, grew up in Canada and lives in London as a scientist and author (“The Memory Illusion – How our brain fakes memories”, “Evil: The Psychology of Our Abyss”).
Bisexuality is less acceptable than homosexuality?
But the letter “B” in the acronym LGBT or LGBTIQ, for example, is now often said in the so-called June Pride month, but is rarely thought correctly. Shaw says the societal debate about bisexuality lags the acceptance of homosexuality by about 30 years. Her book “Bi” is the first popular non-fiction science book on the subject from a bestselling publisher. Shaw says a lot of people have some kind of fear of liquidity. It is rooted behind one-sided identities. As a bisexual woman, I have often wondered where she is. So she has now written the book she was missing out on as The Binary World Atlas.
Unfortunately, the queer community is not necessarily a safe haven for “bi’s” (“safe space” as it is often called today). While gays and bisexuals have met with a kind of “hypersexuality” – according to the motto: “You can’t be faithful and want to do that to everyone” – lesbians and gays often reacted negatively because they viewed bisexuals as unfaithful or frustrated, perhaps Still on the way to the “real exit”.
Many bisexuals hide their orientation
As a result, it can be said that more than “100%” of people are attracted to more than one gender than lesbians and gays. But most bisexuals don’t talk about it – neither in a relationship, nor in family, nor with friends, and certainly not at work. Bisexuals are more likely to hide their orientation than homosexuals, Shaw cites studies. There are also very few celebrities who are honest with him. Unfortunately, almost all of them are invisible.
According to Shaw, the word “bi” (from the Latin “bi-” meaning “two”) is often misunderstood to mean male and female. But this is the wrong duo. “Since the concept was created, it’s been about gay and heterosexual people.”
Shaw in “Heartstopper”: “Very Important”
Shaw doesn’t think much of the slick German saying “a little bi never hurts.” “Ostensibly positive, because acceptance is of course the necessary first step for a ‘bi-inclusive’ society,” she told dpa. “But if we take a closer look at this saying, what it means is that a lot of people in homosexual situations are ‘just playing,’ but they Truly “heterosexual.” Such a saying undermines bisexual identities. “Bisexuality must be taken seriously, just as homosexuality is now taken seriously.”
On the other hand, Shaw finds the Netflix production “Heartstopper” helpful: “This series is very important in order to show bisexuality. In the series, bisexual boy Nick is portrayed in Bi-Pride colors — pink, purple, blue — the moment he confesses his feelings for him. His friend Charlie.” The story of coming of age shows that these feelings can be exhilarating. “Accepting them — rather than suppressing them — is a healthy aspect of life.” Diverse love should be celebrated – “in the same way we celebrate other love experiences.” (dpa/mcf)