Envy and Resentment: Rowing Attacks in the Stables

Unfortunately, it is emphasized over and over at regular intervals that there is hardly any other sport as much envy and resentment as in the equestrian sport. In almost any other sport, there is a lot of rowing and hating. It is no accident that the saying “cyclists are fighters”. Like bittersweet which unfortunately turns out to be true over and over again.

Many people don’t envy others about a new horse, championship placement or even cliched things like the number of riding lessons or a new outfit. It’s a shame that there are always reasons for rumors for some people. You often get it enough: someone is riding their horse into the riding arena – and several others are adding their year.

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Same thing in tournaments. The professionals seem to be all in the same group and can anticipate every error and then analyze it down to the last detail. It is not uncommon for the words “did you hear what XY did again” to be greeted when entering the barn. For me personally, this is more of a deterrent than an invitation – which is why I now feel more comfortable in the small stables.

politeness? no one

For me, it’s absolutely a matter of course to tell people I know, but also strangers, in tournaments, that they’ve ridden a great ride, if that’s the case. The reactions are always the same: first, the person appears shocked or suspicious, followed by a hearty “thank you” and a beaming smile.

I don’t do it because I expect something in return. I do this because I do it out of deep conviction. Good rides should be rewarded, whether in tournaments or in training, and that’s something you’re welcome to discuss. Anyone who rides fairly and well can often hear this. Especially in a society that often seems to be good manners not to say a kind word.

All topics are a reason for blasphemy

But what are people really talking about? The range is incredibly wide. For example, if someone has a teacher under the saddle, there are many things that get you excited: If you’re successful, it’s the horse’s fault. If you don’t succeed, people quickly ask themselves why you aren’t making progress despite the “easy horse”. If you are riding lessons, you cannot do it alone. If you don’t ride lessons, you think you’re a pro.

Horse girl cliché
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If you feed additives then you are a chicken – you only feed muzzle of a woman and a horse

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In my opinion, performance should be rewarded, and not just loops. By the way, the feat does not have to be athletic either: it can also be a perfectly cut horse. Or the fact that someone spends several hours with their horse every evening after work. Or he is always there for others, always takes care of his leather gear or just generally spreads a good mood.

I appeal to all riders: Treat others as you would like to treat yourself. Just be someone you’d like to meet yourself. Because at the end of the day, with all the different (riding) directions and philosophies we can follow, we all have only one thing in focus: a great hobby that should make us all happy every day, rather than burden our soul to lie.

More on that in the podcast

Would you like to learn more about envy and gossip in equestrian sports? In this episode of Pet-Talks: Horse, Harriet Jensen shares her experience and tries to figure out what to do about it. Listen directly inside:

You can listen to this episode on Spotify, Apple Podcast, and Deezer.

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