Diver parents can interfere with their children’s success in life. We explain what is behind the educational method.
The ways of upbringing are likely to be as diverse as the parents on this earth. However, psychologists and educators like to use symbolic language to describe common “parent types”. For this, Buzzfeed.de writes, they use technical devices or vehicles, such as the term “helicopter parents” – everyone knows this word. No good taste.
It was not in vain that Twitter users mocked Christine Lambrecht as she flew her son on a government plane and called her a prime example of a helicopter mother. Helicopter parents always walk around their children, burdening them with attention and care. It’s still better than what “sub dads” do, according to a school law expert.
Diver parents do more harm to their children than helicopter parents.
Opposite Online focus School attorney Thomas Bohm explains why “submarine parents” are so problematic – especially with regard to the education and career of their children. As can be guessed from the terms “helicopter” and “submarine”, “chopper dads” and “submarine dads” couldn’t be more different. Expert says: ‘Diver parents do more harm to their children than helicopter parents’ Online focus. On the contrary, researchers from the United States say that children of helicopter parents are more successful than others.
Because while parents roam around kids intensely and that can also be annoying to teachers, they at least have a serious interest in their kids’ success, according to Baum in an interview Focus on the Internet. On the other hand, “Parents don’t come, don’t go to parent-teacher meetings, don’t talk to teachers – they only take out heavy artillery when they are threatened.” They ignore and stop their children, which pediatrician Voigt calls a huge parenting mistake.
This would hurt the kids even more, because parents stay under water until their kids get into situations they can’t get out of without help. But rather than taking action, U-Boot parents often expected teachers to solve the problem. “This situation cannot work,” Bom warns in an interview Online focus.
The ‘drenched dads’ way of parenting out there – what about attachment-oriented parenting?
So the submarine came out as an educational tool for parents. The helicopter also doesn’t look very good – with the exception of Anton Hofriter, who is celebrated for taking his young son to the Bundestag session. But this is a bonus for men and politicians, Twitter users believe. But what is the method of education that should be? Nora Imlaw thinks it’s best not to do it at all Süddeutsche Zeitung (SZ) 2021 Interview about her new guide ‘Family Compass’. She has a deep conviction that parenting does not mean using certain methods to raise children to be sane adults.
Imlaw, with her four children, is dependent on “close parenting” (also known as attachment-based upbringing). This approach is more individualized and, according to the platform, has Family.de The needs of the whole family are taken into account. He does not rely on perfectionism and does not necessarily try to set limits for children, but rather sets his own. Teacher Elaine Ritz says eye level communication is the priority here Family.de About paternity based on attachment.
This change in perspective should also remove the site from above (helicopter) and from below (submarine). Although this method of upbringing is more difficult, it certainly has advantages for children, as it creates a good foundation of trust for adulthood and children who are raised in an education-oriented manner are more solution-oriented, continue to develop language and are more empathetic. However, empathy also has negative aspects and can increase racism and sexism.