Düsseldorf The year of the new day care center has begun and with it a new phase of life for many parents and children. Often for the first time, they didn’t get back together all the time. How to get used to it easier.
Children are only human, and they have their own needs, personalities, and characteristics. Some are more shy, others are more close to strangers. But almost all of them go to a daycare center. From the age of three, that number makes up 60 percent of children in the state of New South Wales, says Klaus Bremen, president of German KITA. The first days can be difficult for them, but also for the parents. This is why there is a so-called acclimatization. Isabelle Degen works at the Seesternchen daycare center in Düsseldorf, a facility of Kinderhut daycare centers, and says that stability depends on the interaction between the child, caregivers and specialist staff. You and Bremen offer five tips on how to make this transition period a success.
1. Make a decision and stick to it
Klaus Bremen says, “Stabilization in the business if parents trust their daycare decision and stay clear of the decision!” If the parents are ambivalent, questioning their decisions and unsure, the children will feel it too. Deggin can also confirm this: “Children can develop a fear of loss only at the age of about eight months. Parents live many fears, and above all, how to deal with them.”
Children are often curious, adventurous, and less prone to self-doubt than adults. Parents must learn to trust that their child can move into a new stage of life. “Trust your child to find his way in the new environment and settle in. Parents don’t have to accustom the child to this — the child himself gets used to it,” says Bremen. Consistent rituals and consciously spending time with the child can help.
3. Trust the professionals
The level of knowledge about early childhood education is significantly different today than it was just a few decades ago. Specialists are trained to facilitate stability for children. You should trust him, you didn’t choose the daycare center for nothing. Bremen also says that it is essential to understand a daycare center not only as an educational facility but also as a community facility: “Most children all over the world grow up in groups and communities—and are not cared for around the clock as an individual,” he says. Doesn’t work without parental help: “A loving and supportive atmosphere in the day care center can only be created if the parents trust the work of the day care team that works there.”
Isabelle Dejean says that the societal aspect has become more important during the pandemic. The children who come to daycare today are mostly born during the pandemic. As a result, many of them had less contact with people who were not their parents. Children’s courses, visits to the playground or even visiting grandparents were sometimes not possible. “It is therefore important that you trust the staff. Here we are working on a close adaptation of the so-called Berlin model. The child gets used to the new environment at different stages.”
A very important point, according to Deggin. “We talk about everything here when we get to know each other. But even after that, we stay in constant contact with our caregivers. Only when we know what is going on in a child’s life can we give them the best possible support.”
For Bremen, this is also key to the first points: “Trust your own decision, in your child, in the daycare team — that trust needs communication. There are no stupid or silly questions for the daycare team. Parents and the daycare team are in an educational partnership, which no It can only operate openly.
5. Get help and accept it
It rarely happens, but sometimes you don’t want to work with coping. The reasons for this can be as individual as the people involved. For Klaus Bremen, the following applies: “Getting help is never wrong if the goal is an educational partnership with the daycare team.” Everyone wants the best for a child. If it doesn’t work, there are many other places you can turn to: daycare representatives, the association to which the daycare provider belongs, such as the German Daycare Association, or your local youth welfare office. Then we can look for a solution together.