Be happy, even in difficult times:

Hopefully, since this column was published, it has been a weekly encouragement to learn about and seize professional and personal opportunities. At the same time, everyone who has a little life experience knows that this is not immediately possible and is rarely easy. Even the most successful media professionals also face crises, setbacks, and stressful upheavals (such as occupational conflicts, problematic dismissals, and critical illnesses). There is often no quick fix for this, even if we expect it to be the case today.

Even in difficult times, it is still possible to be happy and satisfied. However, it takes more than superficial slogans of perseverance, as we unfortunately often hear from the consulting and coaching scene: “You can achieve anything if you only believe in yourself”, “Live your dream, never give up” and the like. Of course, this only works in the rarest of cases. Many of life’s dreams never come true, and some things can’t be resolved. You can learn to deal with it, find meaning in it, and grow from it.

My new book, “9 Truths That Take You Through Life,” just published, is entirely devoted to this topic: Be happy even when times are tough. Everyone must suffer injustice, disappointment, and loss. But those who are ready for it can become wiser and stronger through it. However, this assumes that you are dealing more deeply with what your life actually holds: What gives him meaning, purpose and stability – especially when things are not going well.

Create and enjoy what is possible

By middle age at the latest, you have to realize that you will probably never achieve certain goals again. For example, the desired job level, a certain income, your home or your children. At the same time, you can be grateful for what worked so well. Many wishes have already come true in life – just in a different way than you initially wanted. Personal maturity is shown here by not wasting too much time regretting. But to create and enjoy what is still possible.

The same goes for the idea that life is often unfair. In this way, the younger, less qualified and less experienced fellow can be promoted. An important project, professionally planned and executed, still failed. You have lived a healthy life, but you are still getting sick. Here, maturity is expressed in not delving into discussions of guilt and reflections on how the world ought to be. But do what you can, or else trust in a greater and long-lasting justice.

People are always imperfect

In privacy, for example, after the first short relationships, beautiful relationships and painful separation, it turns out that love is not always pleasant. You are constantly dealing with completely imperfect people, and frankly you aren’t much better yourself. The life lesson here is to stop seeing love in the first place as a romantic, emotional, and beautiful feeling. But as an emotion it is expressed in practice, for example through attention, patience, and practical help.

Frustrating daily life is also one of the challenges that everyone has to learn to deal with at some point. Feeling stressed at work all week, then looking after family and children, only recovering for a short time on weekends and on vacation – this inevitably raises the question: is that really all? If you want to change that, you have to plan your life more holistically. Example: Less work despite the flaws it may create, but more time for friends, hobbies, volunteer work, and yourself.

Clarify your beliefs, priorities, and values

In general, the best strategy in a crisis is: Deal with what can be changed and accept what you have to put up with. This distinction prevents you from stressing yourself out completely. So don’t complain, scold or argue forever, but do what you can. The less you allow yourself to be overwhelmed by emotions (eg on social media), the more time and energy you will have to improve your situation. It helps to express your feelings, but only if they are limited and constructive.

As a coach, I know countless media professionals who go through tough times (such as chronic illness, professional failure) with dignity and realism. At best, this will make them more confident: You see the situation realistically, but you dare to deal with it. At the same time, they better understand the more complex realities of life, for example. can not b. Never achieve everything, but this is also not necessary. This way they mature in terms of personality and character, and see many things more calmly than they did when they were young.

Crises always show one’s failures, like lack of savings and friends in emergency situations. But also strengths that you weren’t even aware of before (like self-control, patience, and friendliness even in difficult times). At the same time, they can encourage people to reconsider and correct past beliefs and expectations. In the end, they draw attention to the beautiful aspects of everyday life that we previously took for granted or ignored.

author: Attila Albert (born in 1972) accompanies media professionals through professional changes. He has worked as a journalist for over 25 years, including at Freie Presse, Axel Springer and Ringier. At the same time, he studied Business Administration and Web Development and completed his training in the USA.

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